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About Technology
Technology has changed our live style, our way of thinking such as computers, we can do emails, printout, we can make websites, people use to roam around and go in search for everything but nowdays people sit at one place, they search in computers for everything. As there are so many opportunities to see, where as we can take help in finding jobs. As there are various categories:
Marriage.com
Secondmarriage.com
To shop in every categories
To gain knowledge about beauties
About dress designing
About computers designing
To know about cooking recipies.
Such as mobiles, we can talk everywhere.
Many various things.
Jaane Kya Baat Hui
Some T.V. serials are so real to life. Now days the new T.V. serial “Jaane Kya Bat Hui” which is coming on channel COLOURS is becoming so popular and favorite to the people day by day. In this story, 90 percent of housewives have the same problem in this country. Women think that when their husbands step out of the house they straight away go to office and come back home which is not at all true. Men think Shaadi aisi hi hoti hai… and their romance ends after one year. If the husband cant spare time for them its because he is too busy – they just think that is how thinks are..
In our society, when a husbands female colleagues call, its not a big deal… but if a man calls to talk to the wife, the husband asks 20 questions. They just cant take it. No matter how much people claim to be progressive, their mentality hasn’t changed.
In India, people think that there is no difference between girl or boy and they feel their thinking is modarnise and give them own mental satisfaction, but one day they have to face the truth, At marriage time when the girl has to leave the house and parents say itself, now husbands house is your own house and you have to adjust and make them happy in the house, this is how the girls parents will gain respect in the society. One day the girl realizes that her parents were wrong, they should not have given the equal status to the girl and boy. ( Parents should make the boy and girl children realize that the girl has to go one day and their behaviour, attitude should be different, it will make the girl easy to adjust) .
But in some positions, when the husband is very dominating, strict, and beat her wife, or having an affair outside the house, the girl should not sit quietly and adjust, she should not loose her respect in the house, she should take strict action against him.
Some elders think as soon as the newly married couple will have issue, they will be busy in their family and will have love and effectionate towards them, but sometimes they are wrong, the couple feels that they are fussy and have burden on them. There life has b ecome dull.
Advise – Goods Tips for marriage
Before and just after marriage, husband and wife should understand their nature very well. So that they should not make the life hell of the children.
Before marriage all confusions should be cleared, so that they should not face any problem after marriage.
Women should get full respect, either she is working or not at home.
Parents get seperated, so do children
Earlier ladies use to suffer a lot due to bad behavior of their husbands. They think this is their house either it is good or bad environment in the house.
The fact is that they have to depend on their husband for each and every thing. They have to live with their husband either they treat them as a servant.
But nowadays ladies are active and smart; they do not want to live with such type of husband. The basic difference is that earlier ladies’ parents use to say that husband house is your house; you have to live in that house either in good or bad ways. But now, parents are taking care of their daughters, they say if you do not want to live come back home. We are there to take care of you, but first option they will always say adjust in the house as you can but if you are fail to adjust in that house then come back home.
As the media has given a quotation, “parents have sent their daughters to live the life in the in-laws house. You have not sent your daughters to die in the in-laws house.” This is how the trend is changing day by day. Now the ladies want to live on their own stand and take care of their children itself. They do not want to depend either on parents or husband. Nowadays the separation of couples is increasing day by day. But this effect on the life of children. Husband and wife make their own lives busy in their work. That time they do not think what will happen to their children lives.
Children suffer a lot when the parents are separated and with the parents separation, some children are also separated. Children hearts are very soft. Day by day there comes a change in children’s life. Children lose their childhood and patience and they are forced to think about their parent’s separation. They do not have normal life, they are always frustrated.
Parents think that with separation they will give children good environment. They are wrong that way children always need both mother and father support. Parents realize this when they are settled in life separately and they are now late to think live together. But if they want they can live together if it is possible.
Tip: Whenever parents think about separation, before separation they should think about their children or they should make up their children’s mind that they are going to live separate so that they should not feel bad.
Homes are not made up with bricks they are made up with hearts.
According to me the girl should be working and mature enough to think about marriage proposal.
She should be physically and mentally mature for marriage.
Before marriage she should know about the background and the nature of the bridegroom.
The girl should know that she is not getting adjusted only with the bridegroom, but she has to adjust with all the family members.
The servants can play a important role in marriage proposals, they can report the whole home environment to the opposite party.
She has to go to other person’s house. She has to go through all the customs of the new house. As she has to adjust herself, the family members will not adjust with her.
As the people say the girl has three births:
One, when she is born in her parents house,
Second, when she is married,
Third, when she gives birth to child.
The girls should be graduate and they should to earn for their own needs. Young ladies will come from bad to good environment and brighten their future. One more reality in our society is that the daughter-in-law has to give birth to a baby boy. If she will not give birth to the baby boy the husband and his family will not accept and will not give her respect in the house. They will say her she is unlucky and she is not fit for this family, until she does not give successor to the family. Some family members force the husband to do second marriage if he is not having baby boy from the first wife. The women third birth is succesful only if she gives birth to a baby boy. This is how some people differentiate between girl and a boy.
The old women take out their frustrations from their daughter- in-laws for their own mental and heart satisfaction and ruin the lives of their own son’s family. (Woman is the biggest enemy of woman).
Some traditional women make their own son realize that you are men you have self ego, your head should not be down in front of your wife. From the starting of the marriage, some traditional women advice to their son to keep your wives under your clutches. They should not have freedom to do anything on their own.
In Balika Vadhu, nowdays famous T.V. serial, the serial’s characters Basant and Dadi Saa play a realistic role in front of viewers. This will help in changing the mental status of traditional women and egoistic, boosted, angry men specially for those men who think women are just like cows who give birth to their generation and work like servants and if they are not able to give birth to their generation they say she has some defect. They will give taunts, look how she is surviving or she should sent to her parents house etc.
Many T.V. serials came to change the mind of the viewers and to show the viewers what is happening in the society. Balika vadhu is becoming famous and interesting day by day.
Balika Vadhu is a good inspiration to the now days traditional environment which has not been removed as yet. By seeing this serial, this can help in removing the social evils from the roots of the society.
Ballika Vadhu is a story about child marriage , they way they have scripted is very nice, it depicts the harsh reality of child marriage and how small kids life are affected by it. I personally felt this concept is much better than the regular saas – bahu saga.
The story’s main character is Anandi.
Anandi in Balika Vadhu
Anandi, the child heroine is projected as a typical child, believing everyone and everything and we are going to see how she grows up slowly – how she is going to change. It is going to be happy/sad mixture – happy to see how she copes up with the situations, sad to see her suffering while facing the problems, the negative side of people, she has to deal with. Now she thinks if she lies, her nose will bloat! She feels sad for small things and within seconds, with the next sentence, she forgets everything and is happy again.
The incidents which are shown in the serial are still happening. The girls are not allowed to go to school, or allowed to go to school till they are 10-11 years old. Afterwards they are asked to do household work. Like daadisa says – first Anandi has to learn to cook and take care of the house. Anandi has got a good mother in law – best mother in law – who is there to protect her like a mother always. I liked the way Anandi said when Jagdish was eating slowly – we should eat food slowly for it to get digested easily – with a big smiling face because her stomach was full!
Not only backward small cities, In big metropolitan cities, some parents marry their daughters at the age of 17, if they are getting a rich man proposal (they don’t bother if the girl is graduate or not) just thinking that the girl will be happy. They don’t look the family background (whether the previous daughter-in-laws are happy or not) and force the girl to live and adjust in that house.
Once the girl is settled and has given birth to children, she thinks this is now her own house and sacrifices her own life. The girl becomes an obedient wife of her husband and the husband and his greedy family members take advantage of this. In some families, if one family member is working, rest of the family members will enjoy his earnings and if the brother’s of the earning member are greedy, they will create misunderstandings between husband and wife and mother-in-law. The head of the family will take side of the greedy brothers to satisfy her own needs and frustration. They will get her tortured both mentally and physically by her husband and mother-in-law will give taunts to her.
One day when children grow up and say how you are living in such type of environment and loosing your respect. The girl who become now woman thinks now it’s the high time to leave the house and make my own self-respect and bright future. When she feels that dogs are respected more than her and other family members, her own husband thinks that she is an orphan.
